Custody Violation: Sexual Relations with Relatives | Misinformation

The private detectives of Aaden Detektei Berlin are conducting an investigation in a custody matter where there is a suspicion of sexual relations between relatives.

Assessing Custody Concerns

The parents of little Lilli (5 years old, all names changed) had separated. She now lived most of the time with her mother and was allowed to see her father, Mr. Böhme, every second weekend. He commissioned Aaden Detective Agency Berlin to review whether his estranged wife was properly exercising custody.

The reason: Lilli, once a cheerful, carefree child, now seemed more and more distressed every time he saw her. She ate little, had constant nightmares, and increasingly isolated herself from her friends—and from Mr. Böhme as well. Although there were no physical signs of possible abuse on her, as Mr. Böhme reported to our detectives from Berlin, the changed behaviour of his daughter may have had other causes in her mother’s care.

Surveillance by Detectives: Inconspicuous Target Person

Since the Böhmes’ separation had not exactly ended on good terms, due to repeated infidelity involving changing partners on the part of Mrs. Böhme, contact between the spouses had since been very limited. Consequently, the client of Aaden Detective Agency Berlin knew little about his estranged wife’s current life. Did she have regular employment, or did she live only on maintenance payments? Did she have a new partner? Was she possibly already living with him? What influence did he have on daughter Lilli?

These questions had to be clarified by our private detectives in Berlin through surveillance. For the first investigative day, a normal weekday was chosen. The investigators started early, as the nature of Mrs. Böhme’s possible activity was unknown and it was therefore impossible to say when she would leave for work. But it never came to that, because over the course of the day the activities of the target person of our Berlin detectives remained limited: she took Lilli to nursery school, ran a few private errands, picked Lilli up again, and otherwise was only seen once airing bed linen at the window. All very inconspicuous. No indications of the daughter’s changed behaviour emerged for our private detectives in Berlin during this surveillance.

Family Outing to Brandenburg

For budgetary reasons, the second check by Aaden Detective Agency Berlin was carried out on a weekend day when Lilli could not be taken to nursery school. Perhaps new information would arise from the mother and daughter’s leisure activities. Since it was a warm and sunny day, our investigators expected good chances of observing the target person and her interaction with the child outdoors. In fact, Mrs. Böhme, Lilli, and an older unknown man left the house together early in the morning, got into an unknown vehicle (presumably the unknown man’s car), and drove to Brandenburg to the amusement park “Familiengarten Eberswalde.”

For hours, Lilli occupied herself there with attractions such as a fairy-tale forest, a magic castle, and an adventure town. She did so diligently, without outwardly showing the kind of childlike joy and enchanting smile that delights everyone who knows what it is like to have children. The unknown man occasionally fussed over her, but his behaviour toward her seemed rather defensive to our private detectives from Berlin. Mrs. Böhme mostly walked hand in hand with the man, they kissed repeatedly, and when Lilli played for a longer time in one place, the two sat on a bench and cuddled. Later, the three went to eat something, then back home, and early in the evening they went out for a walk together again.

Shocking Discovery by the Client

The detectives of Aaden Detective Agency Berlin discussed the events of that surveillance day with Mr. Böhme. Based on the facts, there was no reason for complaint: although Lilli did not appear particularly cheerful, objectively her mother had invested a great deal of time in giving her a pleasant day. The older man made a composed and serious impression, his interaction with Lilli seemed normal, and the behaviour of the new couple toward one another appeared affectionate. Everything looked like a good environment for Lilli.

But then came the shock: in a photograph, Mr. Böhme identified the unknown man cuddling with his estranged wife as her father and therefore as Lilli’s grandfather! This news initially unsettled our detectives from Berlin as well, because naturally nobody had expected that. Once the parties had regained some composure, they discussed how to proceed. Report it to the police immediately? Continue surveillance to rule out a misunderstanding? But how could such a misunderstanding have arisen in the first place? In such a matter, this can hardly be dismissed as a mere lapse, and it certainly cannot simply be overlooked.

How Much Does the Daughter Know?

The client of Aaden Detective Agency Berlin decided, under a pretext, to insist on being allowed to take Lilli to his home the next day in order to question her about what she knew of the relationship between her mother and her grandfather and the extent to which she had been influenced by it. After some discussion, Mrs. Böhme agreed. Lilli was very closed off and revealed information only in small fragments. Gradually, however, it became clear that she knew about the kisses and probably also about the sex between her mother and her grandfather, and that this behaviour disturbed her greatly. She felt very uncomfortable around the two of them and did not believe what they were doing was right.

Mr. Böhme then consulted with our Berlin private detectives. We advised him to file a criminal complaint with the police under § 173 (sexual intercourse between relatives, commonly incest) and to notify the youth welfare office accordingly in order to obtain immediate sole custody. The offence carries a penalty of up to three years’ imprisonment. However, the client of Aaden Detective Agency Berlin first wanted to confront his estranged wife and his estranged father-in-law personally: “This is disgusting! I cannot understand it, I have to ask them what is going on in their heads!”

Confrontation, Observed by Our Detective

One of our female detectives from Berlin played babysitter for Lilli, while another colleague accompanied Mr. Böhme to Mrs. Böhme’s address as a precaution. He was to remain in the background and intervene only if it came to blows. Although he knew of no violent tendencies on the part of his estranged wife and her father, after the discoveries of the previous two days he no longer really knew what sort of people these two actually were.

He rang the bell—no response. He rang repeatedly—after two minutes, Mrs. Böhme appeared at the window wearing little clothing and shouted at him whether he had lost his mind. Apparently she felt massively disturbed. The client of our economic detectives in Berlin demanded that his estranged wife come downstairs immediately to the front door, as he needed to confront her. She replied that he should come upstairs if it was so important. Mr. Böhme, however, refused and insisted that he would call the police immediately if she and “that damned Hannes” (the father-in-law’s name) did not come down at once. Mrs. Böhme already knew why.

Grandfather Coming and Going at the Marital Home

A scene unfolds in front of the house that does not escape the neighbours either, as observed by our detective from Berlin. Mr. Böhme’s tone and choice of words are indignant; he expresses his outrage and disgust at the behaviour of his two “interlocutors” with great fervour and demands explanations. Again and again, Mrs. Böhme and “Hannes” try to calm him and lure him into the house, but he insists on receiving an explanation “here and now.”

And eventually Mrs. Böhme gives it to him: she had been sleeping with Hannes ever since she had just finished school. The affair between the two continued constantly—whether one or even both of them had a steady partner at the time or whether they were single. Even during the period when they were getting to know each other, during the engagement, and during her marriage to the client of Aaden Detective Agency Berlin, meetings and sex with Hannes took place regularly. She had therefore loved Mr. Böhme no less, but Hannes and she were simply addicted to each other. So addicted that she once introduced him as her own father when Mr. Böhme caught her in the act: when the Böhmes had just moved in together before their marriage, the client of our Berlin detectives came home early from work one day. At that moment, Mrs. Böhme and Hannes were just enjoying themselves in the apartment’s bedroom. When they heard the door, both had just enough time to get dressed. The present Mrs. Böhme hurried out of the bedroom and told her partner that her father had unexpectedly come to visit and that she had just shown him the bedroom. Mr. Böhme saw no reason to doubt this statement and instead greeted his supposed future father-in-law. The latter then had a ready-made excuse for coming and going in the married couple’s home without arousing the slightest suspicion.

Lack of Consequence Awareness on the Part of the Mother

“You two are really the absolute worst!” Mr. Böhme exclaimed once the story had been told. “And Lilli?! You tell her that your damn lover is her grandfather?! Have you completely lost your minds?! She saw you having sex, you lunatics!” The conversation continued in this manner for some time. On the way back, our private detective from Berlin and the visibly struggling Mr. Böhme discussed the next steps. The mother’s behaviour was unquestionably irresponsible, as she was living in—or misleading her daughter into—a world of distorted moral values in which it was acceptable for a father and his own child to have sex. In addition, Lilli had been introduced to a person who was not related to her as her grandfather. What role would this person be expected to play in her life in the future? How could it be explained if he suddenly were no longer allowed to visit her?

Mrs. Böhme’s behaviour was without any doubt irresponsible and immoral. It shows that she is not capable of subjecting her behaviour to sufficient consideration of the consequences for a child. Aaden Detective Agency Berlin advised Mr. Böhme to hire a good family law attorney and, on the basis of the shocking evidence, obtain sole custody.